Can I start it today ?
I have to admit that I do change LO in public. I try to find a private spot but actually prefer doing it there than public restrooms as those really gross me out and I feel that they are just so dirty. I much rather find a bench, roll out a blanket and a changing pad and have DH stand in front of us while I change DD....
I also tried CIO method last night. For about 5 minutes. DD wasn't screaming by any means but I wanted to give it a try since nothing I did was right. It didn't work!
Re: FFFC
haha! I agree those public restrooms are disgusting! I meant just out in the open to clarify...I was walking in the mall and open to look to my right and saw a LO's entire private area...I just think they should have used a blanket for privacy. I change LO in my car because you're right those restrooms EEkkkkk!!
OMG... I AGREE!!! It creeps me out when my babysitters husband has the day off from work and is there when I drop B off. I would never send Brandon to a day care center that had men working there. It's just creepy..
My FFFC- I gave Brandon some ice cream the other night to see what he would do with it. He spit it out immediately (I think it was too cold). We haven't started him on solids yet but he was eyeballing my ice cream and come on, who doesn't love ice cream?
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hahahahahahha!!! I cringe thinking about it!! I am so with you about the Husband thing...If DD has a male Teacher I would seriously change DC's, I can not see another Man besides DH changing my Little girl...NO WAY!!
1. I gave LO some cotton candy to see if he liked it as much as mommy. Yup, he does!
2. Not really a confession, more of an opinion. I hate when people keep telling me my son doesn't need solids, and that milk provides all his needs until 6 months/12 months/whatever opinion they have. Ok, then you live in my house, don't give my son anything else to eat, and you wake up with him at the break of dawn every day when he's screaming b/c he's so hungry. You try to give him more formula during the day and see if that takes care of it, cause guess what? It doesn't! The only thing that has solved our problem is giving him food. And unless you've been in my position, you wouldn't know that! I agree for many babies, milk is all they need. For mine, it isn't. You do what is best for your baby, I'll do what's best for mine.
Ya I don't like that either. And I also change my LO in the car
So, just to be clear, you are all pro gender discrimination in the workplace? WTG
In my Daughter's DC...YES!!! I am NOT okay with another Male changing my Daughter unless it's her Father. My Daughter, My Decision.
I have a couple!
1- DH was home all day with DS (random middle of the week day off) and the only thing he accomplished was running the dishwasher and putting away his clothes that have been on the couch for a month (he does his own laundry) and he had to get his SIL to watch DS to get the clothes put away. He said DS was crying every time he put him down. I got home, played with DS for a little while then layed him on his blanket with his toys and made dinner. No fussing from DS. It was totally a fluke that he didn't cry but I let DH think I was a miracle worker and knew what I was doing.
2- SIL wanted to watch DS when I went back to work. DH was all for this and I love the idea but had some serious concerns about her not treating it as a job and DS being drug around the country whenever she felt like running errands or visiting her parents (not the ILs). Now she has taken a job and her kids are at a babysitter for the summer half days. Her babysitter took her kids on a run to the convenience store and left them in the car! She had freaked out on our FIL for leaving the kids in the car when he stopped one time so its a big deal to her (its a small town so not really dangerous but I totally get where she is coming from). So my confession is two fold, first I am glad she is seeing that childcare is not what she thought it was when she offered to watch my DS, and two DH realizes that I was totally right when I pushed to use a center rather than SIL.
Oh and not to flame but I think male teachers are awesome, they bring a different perspective and I would love for DS to have some male teachers/caregivers.
I agree. I am just not comfortable when it comes to diaper changing aspect. A lot of women are not okay with that. I am not saying Men are not great teachers or caregivers, I am saying I would not want a Male in my Daughter's Infant/Toddler room.
I was kind of wondering when someone was going to say something, because of the response I got about no males (family or otherwise) babysitting my son.
On that note: it is your child. You need to be comfortable with who you have watching your child. Mother's instinct. Blah blah blah.
I agree which is why DCP's do the same background check on all their employees.
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so would you take a son to an all male DCP?
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DH tried to pull that on me the first month or two I went back to work, only I KNOW that DS was not fussing and took 4 45-minute naps while I was going. So we had a little talk and now when I come home the dishes are done (by hand), floor is swept, and cloth diapers washed. Every now and then he surprises me with an extra chore
I'm sure that weeds out a good portion of people who intend to hurt children.
But point remains, if mom is not comfortable with it, don't do it just for the sake of being PC.
I never thought to be paranoid about changing DS in public.
Normally I do it in the back of my car (I
hatchbacks) because it is most convenient. MIL once changed DS at the Olive Garden in the booth while they were eating (I heard this second hand from DH). Now that is weird.
And if she is not comfortable with the DC's hiring practices she should take her child elsewhere, but she should have done that in the first place if she wasn't comfortable with their screening process. There is a diff between meeting and being uncomfortable with an individual regardless of gender and making a blanket judgement against daycares that hire ethically. Just sayin'. And props to you, Wychets, for owning it.
poop + food = gross. same reason i wouldn't breastfeed my kid in the bathroom.
as for the whole let your LO be wet/dirty--> are you telling me that you change your kid the second he gets wet? i'm sure my kid has slept in a wet diaper for a couple of hours before I found out he was wet, just as I'm sure yours has too.
BTW, the "that is weird" comment was supposed to be lighthearted. I'm sorry it was taken as an indictment against your parenting skills.
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bravo Farmboyswife
You all are starting to get on my nerves. Changing a LO in publoic isn't porn. Who the ** is staring down a baby's crotch while getting a diaper change. those sick fvcks aren't gonna be contained by changing your kid in the car. As for men in daycare. look you do what you need to do with you kid, but to operate under the beleif that any dude working in a daycare is a peder-ass is insanely ignorant, prejudiced and screams of your own personal issues. flame me block me whatev. I am seriously disillusoned with the ignorance running around this board lately
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High five for all of this.
well that is the problem with the interwebs, the sheriff is pretty lazy
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To me, the idea of not wanting your child in a daycare center if there are men who work there is so preposterous is hardly warrants a response (and yet, I responded...)
As to changing your child's diaper in public, have at it if you're in a mall, a park, a store, etc. However, if you are in a restaurant, yes, you should find somewhere other than the dining area to change your baby. Sh*t, no matter how cute of an a$$ it came out of, is still sh*t; and having it in the vicinity of a dining area is a health hazard.
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this. and you people are crazy. seriously. it is a freaking baby for crying out loud.
It isnt nakedness I have issue with. It is the idea that just because you have a baby and there isn't a proper place to change him, it entitles you to literally put sh*t in a dining area with other patrons. It's selfish, rude, and wrong.
The fact of the matter is, having feces (and I'm not talking about microscopic particles that may be left on someone's hand should they not wash after using the restroom, I'm talking about an actual steaming pile of sh*t) in the same vicinity where people are consuming food is disgusting and a health hazard (And please, don't talk to me about natural bodily functions. Human beings have been deficating downstream for centuries for a reason. This isn't a public breast feeding debate).
I whole-heatedly agree that all restrooms should be equipped with diaper changing stations. However, when they are absent from an establishment, that does not give you the right to change your child's diaper on the table, in the booth, or on the floor of the restaurant.
I bring a blanket with me for just such occasions. Lay it down on the floor of the restroom so your baby isn't directly on the floor, and wash the blanket when you get home.
What part of putting the blanket on the floor and then washing it afterward did you not understand? The blanket is for that express purpose. It is not then used to wrap my baby in. Diaper bags have compartments for changing pads. The blanket fits nicely inside of that compartment. Take it out and wash it afterward. Then clean that compartment. It isn't difficult to understand or do. However, doing so would require you to be considerate of the people around you, as well as rob you of the chance to feel entitled so I can see how that would be problematic.
so, let me get this straight...you will change your child ON A BLANKET on a public restroom floor. you will then pick your child up as well as the blanket (which was just ON THE FLOOR), and you will carry your child back to the table? so, now the germs are not only on the blanket, diaper bag, and baby (because we all know that germs cannot permeate cotton), but now they are on your hands as well. and you are carrying your child. and then you are going to have a nice meal! Bon Appetite!
WTF? Why is this so hard?
You put a blanket down. You put the changing pad down. You change your baby. You Purell your hands. You pick your baby up with one arm. You pick up the changing pad and stuff it in the back compartment of the diaper bag with the other arm. You do the same with the blanket. You zip up the compartment. You exit the restroom. You sit down and Purell your hands again. The end.
I just don't understand why mothers are expected to act like circus monkeys and do everything one handed while holding on to a squirmy infant. this entire scenario has about 13 steps too many. life as a new mother is challenging enough--why make it harder for yourself?
I was at a restaurant today that had no changing tables. Had the counter not been big enough, I would have taken A back to the table and changes him there. without shame.
I am in MI--every public restroom-dirty or clean-has a drain in the floor.
even if it looks clean, I just would not put my kid on the floor. I am an ER nurse; maybe I have just seen too much.
I don't see anything wrong with changing a baby in public (like on a bench in the mall) as long as you put something down to protect your baby and the surface. I have to agree though that I don't think it's appropriate to change your baby on a table or booth when there are other people sitting around you eating. Just because you're not bothered by sh*tty diapers (and let's face it, they can smell horrible) doesn't mean other people aren't and there should be some consideration and respect for others around you. And even if it is a natural thing, it doesn't make it okay to do it around other people as they eat. I would be equally disgusted if the person next to me was farting and burping loudly and those are natural bodily functions as well. There is a time and place to take care of certain things and in a restaurant around food is not one of them (especially when there are other options available to you). Besides, wouldn't you have to get up and wash your hands afterwards anyways before continuing your meal.
On the flip side, I would never lay my child down on the floor of a bathroom whether it was on a blanket or not (though I did sit in the corner of one once to breast feed). Honestly I probably wouldn't even use the changing station unless it looked clean or if I absolutely had no other choice because ds was busting out of his diaper. I almost always change ds in my car no matter if it's hot or cold, that's why they are equipped with heat and AC.
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Oh for the love of Christ. Yes, my argument is ALL about a baby's penis. Yup, that's what I'm objecting to. My delicate eyes can't see a peen. And any exposure of a baby d*ck in a restaurant should absolutey warrant a visit from Child Protective Services. I'll be the first to call.
That's sarcasm by the way. I feel I need to say so because I'm sure it is lost on you.
And you're right. Your child will absolutey get a deadly, flesh eating virus if you change him on a blanket on a bathroom floor. That is, unless he gets a nice manic high first:
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